Self care has been a heavy topic lately. Although, self care is a major necessity, why does it seem as though there is a great emphasis on this? There are countless articles, courses, master classes, social media posts, and anything you can think of all related to the subject. Could it be that we, as humans, have drained ourselves by the constant need to be on the go, in the know, hustle hard to be that “one”? Or, could it be the constant desire to get to the top but at the same time making ourselves available to all things, to everyone, at anytime? Whew! Sounds exhausting, doesn’t it?
There is a common knowledge that love is a choice not just a feeling. So keep that in mind when you think of yourself and how you care for you. The act of self care is the presence of self love. This is not a selfish act, but crucial for survival. It is a necessary step in order to get the best run out of the one and only life you have to live.
Self Love vs Self Care
The older I get the more I begin to understand the importance of self care and can appreciate quiet time or time alone. When you can love yourself well, is when you can best love others. It’s easy to care about everything and everyone around you but you have to put yourself first in the equation. By doing so, you’ll effortlessly have grace and mercy for others. To promote a healthier lifestyle of self love, start with creating a weekly regimen or a “self care” calendar to help keep this a priority in your life. Then make a list of things you enjoy and schedule a day or time to indulge. Everything doesn’t have to cost.
How you treat people is a reflection of what is on the inside of you (your heart). If I am short and snapping on others, I’ve realized that there is usually something more going on because this is not my norm. Most likely I’m feeling depleted, whether if it is because of the person I’m short with or just because I haven’t taken the proper time and or care for myself. Here are some ways that will help with expanding your self love journey.
10 Ways To Practice Self Love
- Protect your peace! (control what you consume mentally)
- Practice meditation
- Forgive yourself
- Learn to say no
- Do something small or large daily that you love
- Drink lots of water
- Speak with therapist or counselor
- Allow others to love you
- Give yourself grace and be patient with your process
10 Self Love Affirmations
- I release all doubt and insecurities about myself
- I deserve peace and happiness in life
- I deserve to live a life I desire
- I deserve to be treated well
- I am beautiful inside and out
- I am allowed to be myself
- I am worthy of the love I give so freely to others
- My feelings matter
- I am able and capable
- I am worth the investment
Self love & self care is an ever revolving necessity in life. There will be times for you to sit back and reflect on how you are loving you, or whether or not you have pulled away from choosing you. There are also times where you will need to retreat in order to renew and rejuvenate. Whatever this looks like for you, only you can make decisions on what process best fits you.
To conclude, When you lack true identity and self love, you look for it in other people and things. The key to a successful and fulfilling relationship with yourself you must, own your own happiness. People and things cannot create your happiness, your happiness starts with you. Self acceptance, no one is perfect no matter how hard they try to be. Accept your flaws and anything that you feel the need to change about yourself, make sure you are changing for the right reasons and do it only for you. The bottom line is to simply Enjoy your relationship with yourself and learn how to not sweat the small stuff. Trust me, you’ll be more at peace and free.